“What’s Life For?”

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself the question, “What’s life for?”

We all may have slightly different answers to the question, but most of us will say something like… to create experiences or to serve/help others or to learn certain things or to get something or achieve something…

I feel confident in saying that we all want to have a good life. We want to enjoy life. We want to love and be loved, we want to feel safe, and we want to belong.

And if that is true, why don’t we all have it? Why do so many people struggle? Some of us say that when we have better health then we can live a life we love… or if only we had more money… a better relationship… a job that was more satisfying… if only our children would behave a certain way, then we could relax and enjoy life more… if only our partner would treat us more lovingly, then life would be better.

All of that may be true on a certain level, but what if you could have what you love now? What if living a life you love had nothing to do with other people or your circumstances? Now of course others add to our lives for sure. I’m not saying that they don’t. But what I am saying is, ask yourself the question (and we’ll use a loving partner as an example), “If I had a more loving partner, what would that give me?” And take note of the first things that come to mind. It could be more peace, more fun, more joy, more happiness.

And the second question to ask yourself is, “Where in my life do I already experience peace, fun, joy, happiness?” And let all the ways you already have these experiences in your life become known to you. Give yourself a moment to reflect on the experiences you have in your life right now. Really allow yourself to feel into them. And don’t forget to smile.

Then ask yourself, “What are all the ways I can experience this feeling even more?” Just imagine that you can imagine… all the ways. And give yourself permission to really feel into it.

Basically, what I’m saying is that our life isn’t a problem to be solved. We don’t have to wait for others to show up a certain way for us to live a life we love, or for our circumstances to change before we can experience happiness or love or joy. And we don’t have to ‘fix’ ourselves in anyway either. We can have it now. And by choosing to have it now, we become the predominant creator in our lives. And this is an amazing powerful place to be. It may not be easy at first, it’s a practice.

We always have a choice as to where we place our focus. We can focus on what’s wrong and try to fix it (which keeps us focused on what’s wrong and we get more of what we focus on), or we can look at what’s working and from there, create more of what works. It’s always up to us to choose.

This is basically the difference between a life of ‘problem solving’ and a life of ‘creating’. In the first structure we are focused on getting rid of what we don’t like, and in the second structure we focus on what we’d love to bring into our lives to experience. They each create a very different life experience.

I suggest focusing on the creative structure… on what’s working and from there create more of what you love. It works for me, and it can work for you!

If you’re struggling with this, let me know and we can set up a 30-minute zoom call to get you started.